I knew I could never do both jobs justice. That’s why I chose not to have a family. （DH S02E01）
What do you think of Nina’s comment that “I knew I could never do both jobs justice. That’s why I chose not to have a family.”
General question: Is it necessary for a woman to climb up the coporate/social/political/whatever ladder without getting married?
For women: If given the chance, are you willing to postpone establishing a family when you’re in your prime in exchange for career success?
For men: If your wife is much better suited in the job market/business arena, are you willing to be a stay-at-home dad to attend the eldly and take care of the kids?
Well, first of all, if a woman is willing to marry a man who’s not suitable to be the main breadwinner, there’s got be some notiable facilities or capbilities, or in other words, premium qualities the man can bring up to the family. It can be for example, sentimental value, he’s got a sense of humor, he’s considerate and throughtful, he’s very attentive to the emotional fluctuations of the family members, or maybe he’s a good cook plus a handy man, because whether we admit or not, women who’re capable enough at power launches can be quite assertive and strong-willed, she would never surrender herself to an idle man in the first place, so if that’s the case, the man should comply with what’s best for their family, forget about Ying and Yang, forget about the so-called male chauvinism [‘ʃəʊvɪnɪzəm], which means if you’re agreeed to be a stay-at-home-dad, then you’re required to run errands, to perform daily chores, to attend the young and eldly, give your wife a massage if that’s something relaxes her, place a standing order at florist if this would cheer her up, pay your parents-in law a visit from time to time…All I’m saying is if you’re a resonable and responsible man, if you’re agreed to show your support to your wife’s carrers, taking charge of domestic affair, you do whatever you’re supposed to do to keep the family on board.
But please keep in mind that there’re no distinction of superiority and inferiority, nobility[nəʊ’bɪləti] and contemptibility [kənˌtemptə’bɪlətɪ], as for man, if you’re more capable of handling domestic affairs, just tie on the apron and hum along in the kitchen, as for a woman, if you’re better suitted in the business arena, wipe out all your competitors in your playing field, but always put aside a shred of tenderness once you’re back at home, apart from starring each one of your major roles, the husband ans wife should make joint efforts to fulfill the physical and spiritual interaction to construct a more sustainable and harmonious way of living.
Another important aspect I’d like to contribute is that if a man chose to be a stay-at-home-dad, there’s nothing to be ashamed of, you don’t have to ingraciate yourself with your wife, you don’t have to take orders from her like a soldier, what you should do is finding ways to develop certain skills which would allow you to bring food to the table when it comes to the rainy days, man up enough when your spouse is weak and soft.
mutual understanding and respect.
it depends on whether the woman is willing to show her respect and ackowledge that her man in terms of the his competancy of rising up the children and taking care of the eldly.
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